18 Best In-Depth Questions to Ask Your Roommate


If there’s one thing we know, it’s that your roommates can make or break your college living experience. Asking in-depth questions can unveil layers of your roommate’s personality and help establish a bond that lasts throughout your college years. And we at Find My Place have the best comprehensive list of questions that go beyond the average “what’s your major?” questions, all collected from college students. Here’s what many said they wished they had asked within the first two weeks of moving into their apartments or dorms. And we want to share them with you!


If you’re reading this article, you might be searching for a way to ask more uncomfortable questions. Questions like, “what’s your favorite candy?” can make understanding your roommate’s personality, habits, social life, and living expectations impossible to know. Our goal is not only to help you ask the right questions but also to get to the “best friends forever” part of your relationship with your roommates. 

So here they are: 


Personal Questions

From how to decorate your Dojo-Mojo-Casa-House to which groceries you would be willing to share, this section is focused on personal preferences. Some of the biggest conflicts within an apartment are about room temperature, decorations, and sharing food. Make sure to get to know your roommate with questions like these: 


  • Do you have any specific dietary preferences or restrictions?
  • How do you feel about sharing kitchen space and groceries?
  • Are you involved in any extracurricular activities or clubs on campus? 
  • When it comes to decorating our shared space, what are your preferences in terms of colors and styles?
  • How do you feel about temperature settings in our living space? Are you someone who likes it warmer or cooler? 
  • What are your thoughts on sharing personal items, like kitchen utensils, or would you prefer to keep things separate?



Knowing what kind of habits to expect is incredibly important, especially if you’re sharing a room with someone. What if they’re 2 am partiers or an early-morning gym bro? Their habits can impact you directly, take it from us as experts on roommate disaster stories (Read more about it!). Here are questions especially crafted to understand their habits:


  • What are your study habits like?
  • How do you prefer to manage shared living spaces during study sessions?
  • Are you an early riser or a night owl? 
  • How do you feel about morning or late-night routines in our living space?
  • How would you describe your lifestyle in terms of cleanliness and organization? 



Some come to college looking for a new friend group, some come to expand their friend group, and others want to do lots of fun things with friends they already know. It’s hard to tell what your roommates might be interested in during the first few weeks of school. The questions below are constructive ways to be courteous when it comes to having friends over. 


  • Are you open to having guests over, and if so, how frequently? 
  • What are your preferences when it comes to socializing in our shared space?
  • How do you plan on balancing social life and academic responsibilities?
  • Are you an introvert or extrovert, and how much alone time or social interaction do you generally prefer?


Shared Spaces


Now we’re down to the nitty-gritty. The Big Slam! These questions are designed to facilitate helpful conversations for roommates. Sharing a small apartment can be tough, especially if you and your roommate(s) don’t see eye-to-eye. By asking the following questions, you can find insight into their habits, social life, preferences, and communication skills. 


  • What are your thoughts on sharing personal items or establishing boundaries for shared items in the apartment or dorm?
  • How do you handle conflict or disagreements?
  • What’s your preferred method of communication for addressing issues that may arise between roommates?
  • What are your expectations regarding noise levels in our living space, especially during study times or quiet hours?
  • Do you have any specific expectations for our shared responsibilities, such as cleaning or chores?
  • How might your schedule impact our shared living arrangements?
  • What are your expectations for our shared living space?



The key to a successful and harmonious college living experience lies in the art of asking the right questions. Your roommates play a crucial role in shaping your time at college, and delving into in-depth inquiries beyond the typical small talk can reveal essential layers of their personalities. Our carefully curated list of questions spans personal preferences, habits, social dynamics, and shared spaces, aiming to equip you with the tools to establish strong connections with your roommates. Whether you’re navigating decorating styles or navigating potential conflicts, the insights gained from these questions can pave the way for a “best friends forever” relationship throughout your college years. At Find My Place, we believe that understanding your roommates on a deeper level from the start is the key to creating a living space where everyone feels comfortable, respected, and valued. So, go ahead, ask those questions, and embark on a college journey enriched by meaningful connections with your roommates.


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